So I'm listening to Taylor Dayne for the first time in 25+ years, thinking it's going to be a lovely journey into nostalgia, and the lyrics are lovely - I'm thinking to myself, "of course this is why you grew up to be a Poly-person"...
"Saying goodbye is never an easy thing / but you never said you'd stay forever / So if you must go / Darling I'll set you free..."
Great stuff. But then it immediately downshifts into fantasy. "Love wilI lead you back into my arms where you belong."
No. I've never been under the impression that any of my loves would come back.
"You'll walk out this door (yes)
But someday you'll walk back in (no)."
No, Darling. I don't know that this will be.
I've had my heart broken into a bunch of pieces, little and big. Sometimes I did it to myself, sometimes not. Never though, no matter how much I've wanted it, was I ever under the impression that they were coming back. Even when they did, it was not a sure thing. I don't think that this sentiment, no matter how romantic it may be, is helpful. You're just putting off the heartache that will come when you realize that no, your love isn't returning to you, your relationship is over.
Don't let your love go with the expectation that they will return. Don't set yourself up for even more heartbreak and disappointment when they invariably don't come back "say(ing) how much you (they) miss me (you)." Let them go because you love them (or because you don't, anymore), but don't send them out like some kind of love boomerang. Don't set them up for resentment; don't set yourself up for more heartbreak. It isn't fair to them, and it isn't fair to you.
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